A NSFW hello to Monday :: Slide 2 Unlock

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i’ve really become drawn to couple blogs, especially the ones that have real character, you know, there’s music snippets, videos, history and and and … it’s erotica that goes somewhere, has a story… like those photo stories you used to get in the magazines … can’t remember what you call them…

each couple should choose the relationship model that works for them

also the photos are amazing AND there’s another important thing … the ones i’ve liked the most, tend to capture the man person’s sensuality as well. there is a vulnerability in desire and lust for the beloved that tickles me greatly. it’s a window onto a life that sees sex as an integral part of a relationship. and that gets my up-vote.

this week’s feature is slide 2 unlock, a couple blog that would’ve done well circa woodstock ’69. it’s rock n roll meets hugs n squeezes, edge meets sweet love.

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i liked the snippets of commentary and they even have little chats with ninja and trouble from nymphoninjas, the couple blog i featured a few weeks back. also, the little note on monogamy just goes to show that each couple should choose the relationship model that works for them – not the one they’re been told is best by social mores, pop-culture trends or sex self-help books.

My only issue, as always, is how straight and pale everything is. if you know of any couple’s tumblrs by non-pinkies please let me know. the interweb is a vast place and, unfortunately, we cannot trust google to bring us all the stuff on search.

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Sex, actually :: Drama for Life brings the real sex convos to campus

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i heard a very disconcerting piece of info the other day regarding the old stellenbosch university tradition, ‘soen in die laan‘. to explain briefly, soen in die laan is when a group of boys and girls get together in some lane and kiss each other.

let’s look at that sentence again: when a group of boys and girls get together in some lane and kiss each other.

in 2010, two crazy MEN caused a ruckus when they KISSED EACH OTHER.

AND THE WORLD CAME TO A CRASHING END #not

AND THE WORLD CAME TO A CRASHING END #not

according to mamba (in an article about the two protagonists’ terrible deaths a month later … which is not at all suspicious …):

‘Brown and Czepan made international headlines last month when the image, snapped at the annual university ‘Soen in die Laan’ kiss-in event, became the subject of controversy on the conservative campus.

‘The photo, taken by The newspaper’s photo editor, Vanessa Smeets, was both welcomed and criticised by students, some of whom destroyed or defaced copies of the newspaper.’

weirdly, the years-old ‘tradition’ was cancelled and replaced with something less provocative to those crazy poefs and queers who just want to ruin hetero fun.

not this. but it would be apt, all that dancing around the giant phal-- i mean maypole

not this. but it would be apt, all that dancing around the giant phal– i mean maypole

so that was, like, four years ago. which is, well, just fantastically depressing if you consider some of the stats that came out of that Student Village Sex Survey I did last year.

BUT.

before you go off into the abyss of despair for our future and its capacity to evolve beyond 19th century patriarchal structures, you’ll be happy to know about festivals like Wits University’s DramaForLife’s Sex Actually gig, which is now in it SEVENTH freaking year. i use caps because i find most good festival ideas (music festivals being exempt from this observation) fizzle out in south africa because we’re lame and lazy.

‘it is essential to promote dialogue as a means to challenge stigma and related discriminatory challenges’

festival director Tarryn Lee says: ‘The Sex Actually Festival is a unique cross-community project that promotes practical information and perspective-sharing in relation to healthy sexual attitudes. It is essential to promote dialogue as a means to challenge stigma and related discriminatory challenges… The creative arts is an excellent vehicle for dialogue.’

from this year's festival and shamelessly ripped from their facebook page (link below)

from this year’s festival and shamelessly ripped from their facebook page (link below)

sure is. there’s a lot going on at the festival and i’ll be posting some pics on twitter, facebake and prolly instagram … with another update here. it would be nice to see other major universities bringing these conversations centre stage and under the spotlight. certainly beats hanging out in the dark ages.

#badamtoosh

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