i have a few friends who have messed around outside their monogamous partnerships in one way or another, at some point or another. most never told. most moved on – either with their partners or without, much later. and if they moved on without, never told.
i really don’t think there’s a right way to ‘do’ relationships, you know. i think there are solid guidelines to follow, but mostly we’re all just fucking along trying to figure shit out.
i like to advise – and what’s worked for me – is, generally, honesty. but you kinda need to kick off with that as a policy in your relationship, no matter how tough it feels in the beginning. it’ll get easier. really. it’s like an honesty muscle.
but what happens if a fling actually saved your marriage, in whatever form? what if you and your partner broke up, but they never knew you cheated? would you feel the need to be honest as a parting shot? or just let it slide?
is honesty ALWAYS the best policy?
and then this…