a penis is…

last week i posted an image of a fine looking man and his cock. i was surprised by the men who responded on twitter with phrases that included words like ‘vomit’, ‘disgusting’, ‘never’… i was surprised because:

a) it was a beautiful picture

b) i’ve never had that response from women about the nudies i post of other women

c) it smacks of, if not homophobia, at least an unhealthy sense of sex and self/other

oh eeew he said peeeenaaaahss

oh eeew she said peeeenaaaahss

it got me thinking about the whole goose/gander issue when it comes to many heteronormative men:

hey baby, you should totally dig a threesome with me and another chick BUT a threesome with you and another man? no freaking way. that’s, like, another man’s SCHLONG dude.

or, my personal favourite:

hey baby, let me fuck you up the arse cos that’s totally awesome BUT there’s no way you’re putting a strap-on on and fucking me up the arse. that’s gay.

so i’d like to start addressing some of these perceptions and my first attempt to do so is to look at what we see a penis as, like what i did with the ‘a vagina is’ series a few weeks back? that.

is this better ya'll?

is this better ya'll?

so

a penis is…

drop me a mail, tweet or leave a comment (read: leave a comment) to finish the sentence.

love and hugs

dot

xx

50 Comments:

  1. A Penis was something everyone could talk about, but not about a vagina. Nowadays, things have changed. For me, a penis is what keeps men from growing up. If man A tells another man B to “grow up”, man A clearly lost his penis. I love mine. It’s awesome to pee in public (apologies). Seeing a picture of a naked attractive man? So what? His body looks good. My wife would say so too

    Baldwin
    May 7, 2013 at 9:38 am
  2. A penis could be your maker or destroyer, depending on your emotions at the time.

    Also an awesome thing to have when you camp, or have snow in your back yard ;)

    Kushra
    March 28, 2013 at 8:46 pm
  3. My favourite toy that brings me so much joy!!

    Gerhard
    September 12, 2012 at 1:43 pm
  4. Love your blog! I m straight, however beautiful has never been ugly. And they also seem to work, rather useful in polite Company

    park_it_here
    July 16, 2012 at 6:21 pm
    • hahahaha ‘polite company’ hahahaha

      dot
      July 16, 2012 at 8:49 pm
  5. A penis is……as awesome as a cold beer on a hot day or a hot curry on a cold day ;-)

    Natalie
    September 15, 2011 at 10:09 am
  6. my all time favourite toy!

    Melon
    July 18, 2011 at 10:50 am
  7. A penis is a mouthful :)

    Michele
    July 6, 2011 at 2:36 pm
  8. a penis is a means to an end. pro-creation.
    everthing behind the erect penis is what matters. and while there is much to be said about having a hard one at your service, a soft pair of lips and dextrious fingers take precidence over a penis any day.

    adele
    July 5, 2011 at 1:35 pm
    • after reading some of your comments and questions, i’m really curious about what happens on the inside of your brain re sex, bodies and intimacy…

      dot
      July 5, 2011 at 4:52 pm
      • maybe just realised that intimacy is what women want when they are lonely and insecure, and what they get, is sex. if you are horny, get a man or a vibrator. if you want intimacy, get a lesbian.
        as you can gather, i think my allready failing faith in romance has croaked it last falsetto.

        adele
        July 20, 2011 at 4:31 pm
  9. A penis is also called a piel, dick, schlong, johnson, tottie, tollie, piepie, tros, cock, dong…Sorry I couldn’t think of anything clever to say. I do not mind at all that you post pics of naked men – there’s plenty penises in “straight” porn so what’s the big deal? As a hetero dude I can appreciate a good looking naked dude (and wish I looked like that!).

    charles
    July 5, 2011 at 12:56 pm
  10. BIG Brother to the clitoris

    ET
    July 5, 2011 at 2:31 am
  11. a penis is: something that’s not to nice to look at yet, it gets to be put in to something beautiful

    Spetsnazss
    July 4, 2011 at 9:15 am
  12. standard hetronormative response… which is a shame because that is a great picture, and a fine penis.

    warren
    June 29, 2011 at 10:29 pm
    • Even more interesting considering I’m not straight (and yes, I am aware of the difference between heteronormative and heterosexual)… Thanks for the comment, it’s really got me thinking…

      k-man
      June 30, 2011 at 9:36 am
  13. A penis is… The thing I love to hate and the thing I hate to love…

    k-man
    June 29, 2011 at 10:13 pm
  14. Mistress Black, you promised more yummy man pics! Instead you post that nasty biology text book penis pic. Shame on you!
    Praise the peen!

    crusty
    June 29, 2011 at 7:05 pm
  15. a penis is… the reason women are better than men at EVERYTHING!

    Anton Marshall
    June 29, 2011 at 2:29 pm
  16. Just kidding. but it is… but one tool in a workshop.

    Anton Marshall
    June 29, 2011 at 1:59 pm
  17. a hero in a war… to be blamed when it’s lost, and useless when it’s won.

    Anton Marshall
    June 29, 2011 at 1:58 pm
  18. What your imagination / expertise makes it, fun, purgatory, small, big, whet, awesome, awful. Just ask Dot.

    ray
    June 29, 2011 at 1:37 pm
  19. powerfull, it can be used to give great plesure and joy, BUT, it can also give great pain and sadness !! Depends on the operator…

    Paul Kruger
    June 29, 2011 at 1:31 pm
  20. To be enjoyed and to enjoy

    dignity
    June 29, 2011 at 11:17 am
  21. It’s good to listen to your unfettered view but sometimes ED makes ones best friend a liability. The example shown was good as it gets but female vag comparisons are probably hard to find. Love your chutspa.

    ray
    June 29, 2011 at 11:03 am
    • this is a very confusing comment. maybe because i am being Bear of Little Brain today. What is ED?

      dot
      June 29, 2011 at 11:26 am
      • ED = Erectile disfunction- most of the time it refers to premature ejaculation or the inability to get an erection in the first place. ;)

        Debra
        June 29, 2011 at 12:25 pm
        • ah yes. of course. abbreviating, much like voice recognition, is not one of my strong points.

          dot
          June 29, 2011 at 12:28 pm
  22. Something I never thought I would appreciate as much as I do now

    Emma
    June 29, 2011 at 10:50 am
  23. a penis is as sensitive,sexy,beautiful,fun..as the person its attached to..

    sensual
    June 29, 2011 at 10:20 am
    • love this comment. so true.

      dot
      June 29, 2011 at 11:26 am
  24. I wish is was built like that guy! haha but this topic is hysterical I will admit, don’t get why us straight guys get freaked?? guys come one…..

    Oh ya! a penis is…..man’s worst enemy…

    Vinsin
    June 29, 2011 at 10:13 am
    • last comment was mean’t to say come on grow up its a picture..

      oh another … a penis is the only thing that tends to outsmart our brains…

      Vinsin
      June 29, 2011 at 10:15 am
      • of course. but if your penis outsmarts your brains, you have a problem.

        dot
        June 29, 2011 at 11:27 am
      • God/ess gave men two heads but only enough blood to run one at a time ;-)

        Natalie
        September 23, 2011 at 10:32 am
  25. As a male i had no issue of the guy. i wish l looked that good. as for a pĂȘnis well if l could swop and have a vagana l would, i would stay in bed and use mt vidrator all day. oh what fun.

    ian
    June 29, 2011 at 9:42 am
  26. I commented on the vagina one before, but a penis is gloriously hard and soft at the same time. Like a velvet-covered piece of steel.

    Probably a good part of why I can;t leave my poor bf alone… lol.

    Debra
    June 29, 2011 at 9:33 am
  27. a penis is awesome.. wish i had one so I could write my name in the snow with pee!

    Cybafaerie
    June 29, 2011 at 9:16 am
    • haha Yeah writing your name in the snow or even on a wall is one of my favorite things to do!! Its the small things in life that count … lol

      Jean
      September 22, 2011 at 12:15 pm
  28. a penis is the Y Chromosone carrier, perpetuating the male of the species

    Cybafaerie
    June 29, 2011 at 9:10 am
  29. A penis is awesome to have, but not awesome to “have”.

    The Stuart
    June 29, 2011 at 9:10 am
    • *blink*

      dot
      June 29, 2011 at 11:28 am
  30. not used as often as I’d like.

    Sparky
    June 29, 2011 at 9:09 am
    • who’s fault is that?

      dot
      June 29, 2011 at 9:10 am
  31. a penis is a weapon of mass seduction

    Cybafaerie
    June 29, 2011 at 9:07 am
    • LOVE. how do i top this?

      dot
      June 29, 2011 at 9:10 am
      • Hahaha.. I am a huge fan! Of penii and of you of course.. Proud you like it!

        Cybafaerie
        June 29, 2011 at 9:17 am
        • holy bananas cybafaerie, you certainly went to town on this one :) thanks for playing

          dot
          June 29, 2011 at 11:28 am
  32. a penis is fun, sexy and satisfying.. a prick is the rest of him.

    Cybafaerie
    June 29, 2011 at 9:05 am

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