Postsecret pic of the week :: Why is it hard to share secrets with those we love

20topsecreta very valid question. even though telling a void of believed anonymity and a comment-free environment might seem a good enough reason – like a force field with the capacity to deflect faceless judgement.

because we know someone is going to judge our ‘bad behaviour’ or ‘bad thoughts’. if we didn’t, these wouldn’t be secrets.

secrets are created in a context of shame. shame is most effectively dealt with by speaking about it. assuming you’re sharing with someone who takes you seriously and only has your best intentions at heart – say, an intimate partner, a close friend or a supportive family member – the moment you open your mouth to reveal your shame you diminish the power it has over you.

but i guess the significant phrase here is: ‘sharing with someone who takes you seriously and only has your best intentions at heart’… makes me wonder if this happens so rarely that it’s just easier to tell strangers…

what do you think?