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Ask Dot :: I am a guy and i struggle to reach orgasm

I know a lot of men suffer from premature ejaculation but I have a different issue, I struggle to reach orgasm. I’ve done some reading and some forums say it’s from too much masturbation when a man is younger. During sex an orgasm will happen roughly once every 5 or 6 times. I can’t orgasm […]

Ask Dot :: He doesn’t want me to meet his friends and family

Dear Dot I’ve been seeing this guy for about six months. We met at a party and get along super well. We don’t live in each other’s pockets, but we hang out about twice a week, the sex is great and we talk and email a lot. The problem is that I’ve never really met […]

Ask Dot :: How do I get my girlfriend back? She totally friendzoned me

I’ve recently been “friendzoned” by my girlfriend, we dated for 10 months, our relationship was awesome, never argued and the sex was fantastic. Then about 2 months ago we had a small disagreement one night and she said we weren’t good as a couple and we made better friends. We haven’t spoken much since, last […]

Ask Dot :: My GF has picked up weight and it’s not working for me

I love my girlfriend but she’s started picking up some weight and it’s just not great for me. Like, not 2 kgs, more like 10. She’s becoming really miserable and has started eating crap. We’re not exactly the most active couple in the world, but I haven’t let it all go to rubbish and I […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: weight, self-esteem and sex

i found it super interesting that these two were together. i answered a question the other day from a dude who’s gf had picked up weight. you know, this thing with body image. #urgh. it’s pretty intense dislodging your identity from this totally ridiculous construct of perfection and shoulds. it was encapsulated in a cosmo make-up […]

Ask Dot :: I want to break up with my BF (and date his friend)

I want to break up with my boyfriend but I don’t know how. He’s really sweet but there’s just zero chemistry and we don’t really have very much in common. We’ve been dating for about eight months. I just don’t want to hurt him and I feel like a terrible person because there’s really no […]

Ask Dot :: How difficult is interracial dating in SA?

How hard do you think interracial dating is in SA. Any advice chatting to white girls? I mean, in SA you can’t even say hi to a white girl. When I was in the States white girls asked me out so much I thought it was a trap. *** It was last week’s Ballz Visual […]

Ask Dot :: Some advice on how to make masturbation more interesting

As we bid another fond farewell to Masturbation Month, I’ll post the masturbation Q&A videocast with Gearz in March… Hi Dot. I haven’t had sex in TWO years. In fact, I haven’t had GOOD sex in SIX years. I don’t really see myself meeting anyone anytime soon, but I am SO bored with how I […]

Ask Dot :: Whoops! Turns out I might be lesbian!

Two separate women sent in these two somewhat similar questions in the same week.  I need advice. I’ve been married for 14 years to a wonderful man. I really love him there’s never been any spark in our sex life. Last year without any warning, I fell in love with a woman. I was in […]

Ask Dot :: Help with noisy neighbours

Hi Dorothy, So we have a lesbian couple that lives behind us in the complex. Every now and then they get extremely loud with their sexual activities, screaming orgasm and all. I feel that this is a private thing between couples, in small living spaces should keep their volume on a low. My fiance does […]