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Should you ever lie about your looks on dating sites?

In the online dating world, do you have to be honest about how you look and what you’re about? Do you have to be nice to people who mislead you? Dorothy Black weighs in… The last online date I went on was with a forty-something guy I was considered a 98% match with. According to […]

Do you dare? Mild to wild ideas for you and lover person to explore…

Every now and then a reader sends in an email or request that tinkles my earspace. Last year, a clever man sent me a mail telling me all about the naughty dares him and his lady friend were giving each other, and asking for more ideas if i had any up my sleeve. well, here […]

5 Choices for a better love life

You know you never follow through on New Year’s resolutions that cut out the fun, but what about those that will make your love life a little better? Dorothy Black gives her top tips for a year of good loving… Make time for your primary relationship Yes, the kids are important. Yes, you need to […]

Is preferring a sexual partner of a different race political?

Is swirling and sexual attraction across colour and culture lines a political issue? ‘So why did you never hit on me?’ I asked Rob, a skinny white boy from the ‘burbs and one of my favourite Jozi peeps. It seemed an appropriate question after a few drinks and years of a slow-burn flirt. We’d hit […]

Do you know where your vagina is?

Don’t know the difference between your vagina and your vulva? You’re not alone, says Dorothy Black At first glance it sounds like a ridiculous headline to read: ‘UK women don’t know where their vaginas are.’ Women’s cancer research group The Eve Appeal ran a survey that included asking women if they knew all the parts […]

Redefining the power of women’s sexuality

Dorothy Black looks at new work being done in female sexuality and comes back with the answer: it’s a lot wilder than you’ve ever imagined. Can you imagine a world where a woman’s sexuality was deemed predatory, aggressive and voracious? Where she hunted for mates who could satisfy her physically, instead of coyly waiting for […]

Are open relationships the new dating pool?

Dorothy Black explores the new playing field for the single-something: open relationships ‘Every time I drop the kids off at school, I wonder how many of the moms and dads are also living these crazy sex lives behind closed doors.’ Elizabeth carried on talking, but I was still trying to catch up with what she […]

Is marriage a promise of sex?

If monogamy is your relationship model, does that make you responsible for your partner’s intimate satisfaction? I have a question for you. On the surface it’s a simple question, but dig about just a little and you’ll find a network of emotionally tricky, ethically ambiguous answers. Nevertheless, I’ll ask it anyway, because that’s the kinda […]

Yes, slow sex is the latest, hottest sex trend

‘Learn to be present in the moment, and take your time with sex,’ says Dorothy Black… I was prompted to write this column the other day after I was propositioned by a very charming, but woefully naïve, man. Let’s call him Garçon. After arranging a drinks meet, Garçon told me that he believed I would […]

Women: Trans women, cis women and gender identity

Do trans women threaten your idea of what being a woman is? Get educated and ask some questions, says Dorothy Black I met Becky at a mutual friend’s birthday party some years back. A few hours before I was introduced to her, I’d been told under hushed tones that ‘Becky’ had ‘actually’ been ‘Ben’ just […]