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About dead bedrooms: Is a sexless partnership about mismatched libidos?

Is there such a thing as ‘high libido’ and ‘low libido’? Dorothy Black looks into sexual response and the phenomenon of ‘dead bedrooms’ I was once asked to answer the question: Can a marriage survive without sex? My answer was simple. Of course it can. It can also survive without love, trust and honesty. But […]

10 things you should stop doing in bed

Not sure what you’re doing wrong in the sack? Dorothy Black would like to tell you… Sometimes the only people who can tell you what’s what when it comes to your love life are your friends. They’ve got perspective on your character, know all your emo soft spots, and can spot the crazy little things […]

Is it time to rethink the Kinsey scale?

Dorothy Black spoke to gender activist and psychosexual educator Delene van Dyk about love, sex and the evolution of our sexual orientation. I’ll ask you a question that was put forward to me the other day: ‘What do you understand by “sexual orientation”?’ If you’re anything like me – and most other people – you […]

Keep your sext life safe

Scared of finding your booty online thanks to an angry ex? You don’t have to diss digital sex play completely, you just need to be smarter, says Dorothy Black Until recently I didn’t have a password on my phone. This is silly for a number of reasons, but since my phone is old and unstealworthy, […]

Don’t let anyone tell you how you can or can’t orgasm

Dorothy Black unpacks internal orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G-spot orgasms, no orgasms … and what you’re being told your body can and can’t do I’m starting to question a lot of the sweeping statements made in the name of science and research about women’s bodies and their physical capacity to orgasm. Because if there’s one place […]

Who is speaking for your vagina?

Is your vagina a beaver? Is it gross and smelly and ugly? Dorothy Black takes issue with those that would like you to think so. I’m going to begin this little column with something we’re taught never, ever to do – start a piece of writing with someone else’s quote. But when you read this next […]

10 Sex Myths That Must Go

Dorothy Black takes issue with the old-world thinking that affects your sex life 1. Sex is between a man and a woman, with a penis in a vagina Where does that leave people who are intersex, homosexual or transgender? Or those who don’t like penetration? Or those who only practice anal or oral sex? Are lesbians […]

Is compromise in relationships the ‘win-win great thing’ it’s been made out to be?

If you’re in a continual state of compromise in your relationship, there’s something wrong says Dorothy Black. It’s often said that relationships need compromise. Hell, I’ve said it a few times myself. But since little baby Cupid’s done some good work on me and my friend circle of late, and at least four of us […]

Finally, porn that won’t make you hate yourself

Porn created for women, by women, means never having to sell your self-worth down the river for an orgasm, says Dorothy Black Do you remember the first time you came across porn? Whether it was something you saw or read or even heard? My first taste of it came in the form of I’ll take Manhattan, […]

Sometimes the problem is just you

Listen up drama queens. Does love have to be a production of pain and heartache? Dorothy Black doesn’t think so. Sometimes the problem is really just you. You know that scenario where you’re bitching about your love life (again) and your friends (who love you madly) start doing that thing with their faces that makes […]