relationships

The film: 50 Shades Of Opinion, by Bloggsy Malone

GUEST POST I liked this piece by bloggsy about his take on the 50 shades film – and i think it’s worth noting that the film’s depiction of ana and the book’s depiction of her and christian (and their relationship) are very different things. nevertheless… It’s just a film – just a fictional story – […]

What’s up little plum faces?

listen. so i’m not fucking around no more when i say there are Developments. Developments of which I can not yet speak, but which are nevertheless In The Pipeline. meanwhile, the fact is i’ve just been so busy bread-and-butter writing that i’ve not been able to have a chat here with you for ages. actually, […]

Are you the crazy ex?

Dorothy Black has been the mayor of Crazy-Ex Town and offers her advice on staying away. The phone rings again. It’s the third time in the space of 5 minutes and we both know who it is. ‘Sooo. Not going to answer that, huh?’ I ask, doing a little head jerk to the direction of […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: You are the love of my life (please don’t tell my husband)

Shoo. i imagine a world where women and men are able to commit to the people they love and desire without shame and recrimination. though, i wonder now how many people get married thinking or believing they’re one way sexually, only to figure out they’re really some other way once they’ve done some growing up and […]

Postsecret pic of the Week :: Will you know if your partner cheats?

my first reaction to this is: she probably knows already. do you think that you know on some fundamental, subconscious level when your partner is being unfaithful? i’m not talking about the one-off drunken smooch at the staff party while your SO was waiting for you at home. i’m talking about the sustained, long-term affair […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: Single versus Hooked Up

I’ll take this person’s contentment and happiness with life etc for what it is – contentment and happiness with life. well done you postcard-sender-inner. but. why do you think they feel the need to make out that their happiness is contingent on the fact that they’re single? it reminds me of those single peeps who need to convince themselves talk endlessly […]

5 Choices for a better love life

You know you never follow through on New Year’s resolutions that cut out the fun, but what about those that will make your love life a little better? Dorothy Black gives her top tips for a year of good loving… Make time for your primary relationship Yes, the kids are important. Yes, you need to […]

Is preferring a sexual partner of a different race political?

Is swirling and sexual attraction across colour and culture lines a political issue? ‘So why did you never hit on me?’ I asked Rob, a skinny white boy from the ‘burbs and one of my favourite Jozi peeps. It seemed an appropriate question after a few drinks and years of a slow-burn flirt. We’d hit […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: I drowned a kitten

oh my word my heart goes out to this person and the little 11-year-old that did this. it’s difficult enough, as an adult, to sometimes identify terrible feelings and deal with them consciously. to feel so terrible, so utterly engulfed by rage and pain, confusion and helplessness, is a living hell. being a kid is […]

Are open relationships the new dating pool?

Dorothy Black explores the new playing field for the single-something: open relationships ‘Every time I drop the kids off at school, I wonder how many of the moms and dads are also living these crazy sex lives behind closed doors.’ Elizabeth carried on talking, but I was still trying to catch up with what she […]