Don’t share your passwords with your partner

Does signing up for a relationship mean handing over your passwords? Dorothy Black believes personal privacy and trust need to work together. I heard a story the other day about a woman who was advised by a sex therapist to exchange phones with her husband. The therapist believed the woman’s husband was cheating on her. […]

Ghosting: the worst way to break up?

While simply ceasing all contact may not be the best way to end a relationship, Dorothy Black feels it’s better to be a ghost than chase one. Finally, I have something in common with Onse Charlize other than being born in the same country. We’re both ghosters. I’m not proud of this fact, but I […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: There is a word for this. It is ‘incest’.

the name of this pic is ‘uncleoraunt.jpg’ i’m not sure either sex makes a difference quite frankly. with a 27 year age gap and what with being a family member in a massive position of power, i struggle to be ok with this. not that i’m required to be ok with it, of course. but […]

Are you the side chick?

Does your boyfriend always have an excuse for why you can’t make plans or meet the family? Can he never take your calls or sleep over? Dorothy Black suspects you might be the side chick… We were sitting in studio discussing the pros and cons of tech in relationships when a call came from a […]

Would you cheat to save your marriage?

Ladies and Gentlemen! Your attention please! New findings have been found by finders to save you from your pitiful, unsuccessful marriage! But before you can qualify for the information, answer these few questions: Is your marriage on the rocks? Do you no longer talk to your spouse and feel less than zero intimate connection to […]

Is compromise in relationships the ‘win-win great thing’ it’s been made out to be?

If you’re in a continual state of compromise in your relationship, there’s something wrong says Dorothy Black. It’s often said that relationships need compromise. Hell, I’ve said it a few times myself. But since little baby Cupid’s done some good work on me and my friend circle of late, and at least four of us […]

Postsecret pic of the week :: You taught me how to orgasm without porn

  that last line added all the unintentional comedic relief this postsecret needed. because the sentiment is fucking dire. and not isolated, i’m afraid. i find myself in a very strange position lately. i’ve always considered myself very porn positive. i feel that we’re super visual creatures and that it can be used in a […]

Who is bearing witness to your life?

At the beginning of this year i promised myself to lay off twitter – and social media in general – for while. and by ‘lay off’ i mean unfollow, mute, block, ignore, disengage with, step out of the mess of arguing, competitiveness, hating and awfulness that twitter, especially, spews out into my eyeballs on an […]

Sometimes the problem is just you

Listen up drama queens. Does love have to be a production of pain and heartache? Dorothy Black doesn’t think so. Sometimes the problem is really just you. You know that scenario where you’re bitching about your love life (again) and your friends (who love you madly) start doing that thing with their faces that makes […]

What’s up little plum faces?

listen. so i’m not fucking around no more when i say there are Developments. Developments of which I can not yet speak, but which are nevertheless In The Pipeline. meanwhile, the fact is i’ve just been so busy bread-and-butter writing that i’ve not been able to have a chat here with you for ages. actually, […]